In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I wanted to take the opportunity to reflect on the things I’m thankful for and think about how you can love your life instead of chasing after what you don’t have. I know it can sound cliché, but I find it really helpful to remind myself of the positive aspects of my life. In this day and age, technology makes it so easy to share every aspect of our lives.
That means it’s also to compare ourselves to our friends and feel bad when our lives don’t seem to measure up. This can create a dangerous cycle of keeping up with the Joneses and turning to material goods for comfort.
At the end of the day, I remind myself that I have a job, a roof over my head, and a loving family. I don’t go to bed hungry at night which is not always the case for millions of people. I’m not generally a sappy person, but it’s good to remind myself of my blessings.
It’s easy to get down on ourselves when we don’t meet a financial goal or find out that a coworker makes more than we do. By emphasizing the positives, we can focus on the here and now and actually enjoy our lives.
Think About What’s Going Right for Me
Admit it, we all complain about our jobs. The other day, my colleagues and I were complaining about how bizarre it is that holiday day comes out of our accrued paid time off hours. It’s what coworkers do and we were just commiserating. However, we came to the conclusion that although that while we complain, we’re appreciative to have jobs. The job market is tougher than ever and it’s no longer a given that you’ll get a job if you have a college degree.
I’m really thankful that I have a full-time job that provides benefits. I often complain about my long commute but it beats sitting at home with nothing to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m not compensated enough for what I do at work, but I am thankful that I get to bring home a paycheck that allows me to pay the bills and add to savings.
Focus on the Positives
It’s easy to be tough on ourselves, but I choose to focus on the positives. It’s important to distinguish the difference between focusing on the positives versus being boastful. To me, being positive means being appreciative. It’s okay to take joy in the good things in your life because you’re genuinely grateful. On the other hand, being boastful seems to me that you’re taking too much pride in your material possessions and you want other people to know how well you’re doing. I think it’s wonderful to be appreciative of what you have but it’s not so nice when you boast about it to make others feel bad.
Focusing on the positives helps me be a better person. It helps make me happier and more fun to be around. Love your life instead of the life that someone else is living. Enjoy the positive aspects of your life so that you can live in the present.
Things That Make Me Happy
There are so many simple pleasures in life that make me happy, and they don’t necessarily cost money. I love going for a walk and taking time to read a good book. These are very simple things that help me relax and be happy. Therefore, I make it a point to set aside time for those activities because they help me stay sane! We live in a world that’s flooded with advertising and with friends on social media posting pictures of their fabulous lives.
It’s important to tune that out and focus on our own lives. Your friends may seem to be taking trips every weekend. That’s fine if that’s what makes them happy. It doesn’t mean you have to do the same thing. Not everyone takes pleasure in going out of town. Traveling can be stressful because it involves so much planning. If it doesn’t bring you joy, don’t worry about it. Take pleasure in what makes you happy, not what makes someone else happy.
The Good People in My Life
Finally, it’s always helpful to remind ourselves of the good people in our lives. We can accumulate all the stuff we want but they can’t replace people. I love my family, my friends, and I also get to work with some great people. At the end of the day, it’s the wonderful people we interact with that help make life great. I mean, of course I get annoyed by friends and family every now and then but I can’t imagine my life without them.
There you have it. Simple tips to help you love your life. I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving!